Alternating Weeks Custody Schedule

How the alternating weeks schedule works

One parent has the child for seven nights in a row, the other parent for the next seven, and the pattern repeats. The exchange can happen on any day. Many families pick Friday after school or Sunday evening, so the child starts the week at the home they will leave for school from; others choose Monday morning at school so the parents do not have to meet at all.

Each cell shows which parent the child sleeps with that night. A and B are the two parents; the rotation repeats every two weeks.

Week	Mon	Tue	Wed	Thu	Fri	Sat	Sun
1	A	A	A	A	A	A	A
2	B	B	B	B	B	B	B

This grid starts the rotation on a Monday with parent A. Move the exchange to another day and the pattern is the same, just shifted: each parent still has the child for a full week and then goes a full week without.

Overnights and percentages

Each parent has 7 of every 14 nights, which is 50% and about 182 to 183 nights a year. Because the rotation is perfectly even over two weeks, holidays are the only thing that pulls the yearly count away from 182.5, which is why most families add a rule for who has the child during school breaks.

Pros of alternating weeks

• Few exchanges. One handover a week means less packing, less driving and fewer moments for friction.
• Easy to learn. "This is my week" is a rule a child can understand, and a calendar with seven-day blocks is easy to read at a glance.
• Real stretches of ordinary life. A full week lets each parent do school mornings, homework and bedtimes rather than only weekends and special occasions.
• Simple to plan around. Work trips, travel and activities fit into a week that is wholly yours.

Cons of alternating weeks

• Long stretches apart. The child can go up to 7 nights without seeing the other parent in person. That is hard for very young children, and for any child who misses a parent easily. Video calls in between help.
• Everything piles up in your week. Illness, school events and activities all fall on whoever has the week, and a missed appointment can stretch for days.
• Belongings travel a long way. If something is forgotten at the other home, it can be a week before it comes back. A shared packing list helps.
• Less natural for school-week commutes. If the homes are far apart, one parent may do a long school run for a whole week at a time.

Who alternating weeks tends to suit

It is often a good fit for school-age children and teenagers, for parents who live close enough to the school that either home works for a whole week, and for parents who want as few handovers as possible. It is a harder fit for babies and toddlers, who generally do better with shorter blocks, and for families whose work makes a full week of sole care difficult. Our article on shared parenting for babies and toddlers covers the youngest ages.

Making alternating weeks work in practice

• Pick an exchange day and time and keep it. Predictability is most of what the child gets from a schedule.
• Schedule a mid-week call. A short, regular call on the same evening breaks up the longest stretch.
• Decide how holidays work. Many families alternate holidays, or split school breaks, on top of the weekly rotation. See summer planning with shared custody.
• Make exchanges easy. A bag that lives with the child, a duplicate set of basics at each home, and handovers at school or another neutral place all help. Easing transitions between homes has more.

Setting up alternating weeks in the Co-parenting app

alternating weeks is one of the schedule templates in the app. Pick it in the calendar, choose the date the first rotation starts, and see how it falls across the year before you send it to your co-parent.

A schedule is only a proposal until the other parent accepts it, so you can try it out without committing either of you to anything. Once it is active, neither of you can change it on your own: every change is a request the other parent has to accept, and what you both see in the calendar is always what you both agreed to.

School holidays and public holidays are filled in for where you live, so you can see where the rotation runs into spring break or a long weekend while it is still a proposal. The FAQ covers templates, change requests and holidays in more detail.

Related schedules

If the long stretches are the worry, look at 2-2-3 (no more than 3 nights away) or 2-2-5-5 (no more than 5). For the full side-by-side comparison, see custody schedule examples.

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